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The Humintell Blog August 16, 2023

How to Gather Data for Your Most Important Negotiations

Written by Kwame Christian, originally published on LinkedIn

When you think of nonverbal communication (within the context of negotiation), what comes to mind?

My first guess would be body language, but there is so much there to explore.

I was fortunate enough to have Dr. David Matsumoto, Ph.D. on Negotiate Anything this week on the episode, “Strategic Nonverbal Mastery, Elevate Your Negotiation Skills with Dr. David Matsumoto”.

David is a renowned expert in the field of microexpressions, gestures, nonverbal behavior, culture, and emotion.

He’s also an alumnus of “that school up north”, but we won’t hold that against him – because he’s brilliant!

David joined to share some incredible insights on the world of nonverbal communication, more specifically, non-verbal behavior.

You may be wondering, what’s the difference? If so, you’re not alone.

It’s common for people to conflate the two, but non-verbal communication is actually an umbrella term that includes four different ways to gather information about a person (beyond what they say).

According to David, the four domains are:

  1. The physical environment you are in when speaking to a person
  2. Their physical appearance
  3. Behavioral traces
  4. Non-verbal behavior

He defines non-verbal behavior as the dynamic actions and movements of our body.

This can be a lot of information to take in, so where do we begin?

By simply observing.

The truth is, most people think they are being observant, when in reality they are overlooking a lot of data.

We can learn plenty by simply taking the time to observe the little things about a person, right down to their posture when they enter a room or which chair they chose to sit in.

You may also be wondering about your body language.

What should you keep in mind when engaging in a difficult conversation or important negotiation?

Check out the episode to hear David’s answer – it may surprise you!

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Filed Under: Nonverbal Behavior

The Humintell Blog June 19, 2023

Guest Blog Post: I See What You’re Saying

By Michael Reddington, CFI. Michael is an expert at moving people from resistance to commitment. He is President of InQuasive, Inc., and author of The Disciplined Listening Method.

As a Certified Forensic Interviewer and executive resource one of my foremost goals is to uncover hidden value in all of my high-impact interactions.  These interactions may include investigative interviews, negotiations, leadership communications, and family conversations.

The hidden value I seek is often unintentionally leaked into conversations through facial expressions, behavior shifts, specific word choices, and shifts in verbal delivery.  Observing these changes as they occur can reveal what another person is thinking and feeling within the context of any conversation.

For me the goal is not to detect deception.  It is to understand what someone else is experiencing, so I can adjust my perspective and approach to help me obtain the truth or achieve my goal.

Dr. Matsumoto’s research and Humintell’s training have proved to be foundation resources for my skill development.

I first met Dr. Matsumoto at the inaugural International Association of Interviewers’ Elite Training Day.  I was captivated by his presentation and impressed by his accessibility at the event.

We occasionally kept in touch over the intervening years and over time I delved further into his research and writing. I was thrilled when he volunteered to provide feedback on the manuscript for my book, The Disciplined Listening Method, which draws heavily from his research.

As a practitioner, I’m always excited by the opportunity to talk with research scientists, learn more about their work, and gain additional insights.  I was grateful when Dr. Matsumoto agreed to be one of the first guests on my new podcast, “I See What You’re Saying”.  The sixty-minute conversation flew by and I was thankful for all of the stories and ideas he shared.

One of my favorite take aways from our conversation was Dr. Matsumoto’s focus on leveraging observations to identify someone’s mental state.  Yes, catching someone trying to deceive you can certainly be a bi-product of this approach, but it isn’t focus.  The focus is on identifying a person’s mental state by observing shifts, or changes, their communications.  I found this separation to be paramount.

I was also struck by Dr. Matsumoto’s emphasis on the importance of improving our own capacity to breathe.  Our ability to maintain our composure is a significant indicator of potential success in all our high value interactions.  It can be extremely difficult to recognize someone else’s shifting emotions, solve problems, generate agreements, or obtain the truth if we can’t control our own emotions.

Of course, it was great to hear Dr. Matsumoto talk about some of his favorite research projects.  Hearing some of the behind-the-scenes details of his studies into the emotional expressions of blind athletes was a unique opportunity.

Listening to him summarize relevant research studies from other scientists was an unexpected learning opportunity.  I had never taken the time to stop and think how quickly we react to stimulus around us and that we’re often reacting before we truly understand what we are reacting to.

Perhaps selfishly, I was also thrilled to have the opportunity to weave the topic of martial arts into our conversation. It has been well documented that people who practice martial arts experience a long list of additional and unexpected benefits.

Dr. Matsumoto’s Judo experience, culminating in his role as an Olympic Judo Coach and induction into the United States Judo Federation Hall of Fame, make him the perfect person to share some of these additional benefits.  Concepts including enhanced observation skills, problem solving skills, confidence, and an increased capacity to breathe were among those he took the time to illustrate.

Once again, thank you Dr. Matsumoto for taking the time to join the podcast and share your experience and insights.  His research, perspective, and communication approach embody the core tenants of the Disciplined Listening Method.

To hear the whole conversation please click the links below.

Spotify

Apple Podcasts

Amazon Music

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Filed Under: Nonverbal Behavior

The Humintell Blog March 3, 2023

Analyzing Alex Murdaugh’s Body Language

Alex Murdaugh's Body LanguageThe Alex Murdaugh trial has garnered much attention in recent days, and for good reason: a public figure with a lot of money is tried and convicted of a vicious crime. As with many criminal trials in popular culture, the demeanor of the defendant has received a lot of attention.

In this brief blog, I’d like to discuss a little bit about how reading people and the analysis of body language can help get greater insights into the minds of others. At the same time, I’d like to discuss some of the trials and tribulations of doing so without a solid empirical and experiential basis.

First of all, we should acknowledge the context within which we are observing behavior, which is a trial of a public figure that is being televised. In such a trial, questions and responses are often practiced and polished before they are raised in the court.

Oftentimes the questions that are asked are fixed and those asking questions don’t have the freedom or the luxury to go wherever they want to, as in a free-flowing investigative interview.

The astute observer should realize that reading behavioral indicators of mental states is clouded by such circumstances. That is very different than a spontaneous investigative interview conducted behind closed doors outside of public and television view.

“Anywhere, Anytime”

Many people have commented on the defendant’s verbal answer that he did not kill his wife and son “anywhere, anytime.” (see 0:19 in the video above)

Certainly the use of such language raises doubt about the veracity of that statement because those adverbs seem to make it appear that the suspect is trying to convince the questioner (or the jury) of the denial.

Yet, one has to temper such interpretations because the suspect was asked whether he killed members of his family several times prior, and one of those times the attorney asking the question (in this case, the defense attorney) actually used those very same words.

Thus, when Murdaugh said those same words, it was difficult to know whether those words came spontaneously from his head or was given to him by the person asking the question. The response was contaminated by the way in which the questions up to that point were asked.

Murdaugh Head Nods

When Alex Murdaugh was asked if he killed his family, he says “No, I did not,” while nodding his head up and down.

When Alex Murdaugh was asked if he killed his family, he says “No, I did not,” while nodding his head up and down.

A body language expert can tell you that means he’s lying. His body gave away the truth while his words lied. #MurdaughTrial #Liar #AlexMurdaugh pic.twitter.com/ZYGi5EsIvS

— The Truth ⚖ (@pattykazUSA) February 24, 2023

In that same response, Murdaugh nodded his head several times when making the denial. Many people will be quick to suggest that that head nod was clearly contrary to the denial, using the head nod as a sign of deception (nodding yes while denying).

But hold on; Murdaugh nods his head almost continuously at times, even when not being asked a question or even speaking. That behavior may be a residual effect of a drug addiction.

Yes, although he is likely clean during this testimony, such behavioral effects (e.g., tremors, fidgeting, twitching, tics, etc.) can continue in individuals who have been afflicted with drugs even when they are clean. Thus, jumping on such single instances of behavior and drawing definitive conclusions is difficult and should be done with caution.

Compounding this issue is that head nods are also used to illustrate or animate speech, and not just as signs of verbal “yes” or agreement. Could Murdaugh have been nodding when denying as an emphasis of his denial rather than a contradiction?

This is the differential that I believe a cautious behavioral analyst should engage in.

Cross-Examination of Murdaugh

In fact, later when the DA was cross-examining Murdaugh, he gave a similar denial with the multiple head nods, which was a similar communication package as that described immediately above.

The problem with this other instance, however, was that the DA asked if Murdaugh had “annihilated” his family; thus, Murdaugh’s head nods could be an emphasis of his denial given the explosive nature of the word in the question itself.

Compounding all of this further were the vehement and somewhat emotional ways questions were addressed to Murdaugh by both his attorney and the DA. When interpreting behaviors associated with responses in such situations, it becomes very difficult to separate the behavioral signs of mental states related to his own state of mind and its contents and his reactions to the emotional ways in which the questions were being delivered.

Would Murdaugh have produced a different package of behavior with the denial if he were asked calmly or with less vocal intensity? Probably so.

Thus, attempts to analyze the situations above, and others like it, are difficult and sometimes futile because they are somewhat contaminated by context and the demeanor of the questioners themselves.

As a result, we have to look elsewhere in his testimony for demeanor that is clearer and can clean up some of these differentials in interpretation. In fact, those existed. (Can you find them?)

My point is this blog is that sometimes reading people and using behavioral indicators of mental states are not as easy as some portray. By the way, in our workshops, we provide the kind of textured and nuanced way of reading people that is especially effective for interviewers.

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Filed Under: Deception, Nonverbal Behavior

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