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Syxth Sense Body Language Blog January 25, 2015

Is your body language ruining your elevator pitch?

When I used to work in a startup accelerator I heard TONS of elevator pitches. The trend I started to notice was that although the message of the speech was put together well I was bored or even worse I didn’t believe or trust the speaker!

Mistake 1. Frozen hands

The best speakers use their hands frequently but what most entrepreneurs who haven’t been trained in public speaking do is keep their hands by their sides almost the entire time. In his book Winning Body Language Mark Bowden says”Dropping your hands and standing still in front of an audience causes your unconcious mind to wonder why you have made yourself a static target.” (P. 30) 

So while most people who hold their hands to their sides think that it is helping to avoid distracting the audience what it is actually doing is initiating a freeze response in your body and wasting one of your biggest nonverbal assets.

So, what is the solution? 

Use you hands to punctuate and demonstrate your main pointsTurn your palms up and raise your forearms in front of you to convey openness and trustworthinessMake a flat hand and do a single or double ‘karate chop’ to emphasize your belief in a point (really useful for statistics.)Steeple your hands when you want to appear credible and confidentMistake 2. Nervous rocking.

The second mistake many entrepreneurs new to public speaking make is that they sway left and right during their speech. This nervous gesture is a way to expend energy and shows the audience non-verbally that the speaker wants to get out of there as soon as possible!

Solution: plant your feet facing your audience, and if you get nervous take a few slow steps and re-plant.

Mistake 3. Staring into the ether.

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I call this mistake staring into the ether because many new speakers will look at the wall at the back of the room in order to seem like they are looking at the audience while still avoiding eye contact. It doesn’t fool anyone though. I’ll admit, when I first started public speaking I was a HUGE offender in this area.

Solution, “Square gazing”

I call the solution circular gazing. Here is how you do it. Look at one person in the front left of your audience, and speak directly to them for 10-20 seconds. After that, move to the rear left, rear right, and front right. Keep moving slowly through this imaginary square looking at new people each time and you are sure to keep your audience engaged.

Mistake 4. The question inflection.

This one is for all you valley girl entrepreneurs out there

 

Speaking in uptalk undermines your message and makes you sound like you are questioning if what you are saying is true. In order to overcome this nonverbal nightmare work on giving your speech with the tone of instructing your audience to do something.

So now I want you to:

Leave a comment on this post. What body language tips are you going to implement into your elevator pitch

Share this article to someone you know who makes these mistakes, you can either share this link or if you are lazy (like me) Just click on one of the sharing buttons to your left.

 

Filed Under: how to, Public Speaking

The Humintell Blog January 22, 2015

Surprise Earthquake

KTLA Anchors dive under their news desk when a 4.4 Earthquake hit Los Angeles.

Take a look at the expression of surprise on the anchorman’s face!

Click here to view the embedded video.

Thank you to our affiliate Eric Goulard for first posting this video on his website!

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Filed Under: Nonverbal Behavior

Syxth Sense Body Language Blog January 21, 2015

3 small tweaks to look and feel more confident

Don’t break eye contact  

No, I don’t mean never break eye contact… That would make you look like a lunatic. This tip only applies to when you are doing the talking. Studies show that the Visual Dominance Ratio (VDR) is a reliable indication of who is more dominant in an interaction. So what in the heck is the VDR anyway?? The VDR is the time you spend looking at someone while speaking/ time looking while you are listening. a high VDR means you are in charge. A VDR of 1.00 means that the power is balanced. A VDR of less than 1.00 means that you are the less dominant person in the conversation. So, if you want to feel and be percieved as higher status, always look at who you are talking to, and don’t be afraid to look away occasionally while they are speaking.

Speak 20% slower

Most of us are over caffeinated and in a hurry. It is natural that in a fast paced world we all tend to walk, talk and work faster than ever before. 

But did you know that speaking quickly doesn’t make you appear smarter and more driven? It has the effect of making you seem hurried, disorganized, and even un-confident (people with low confidence often speak quickly to avoid being interrupted)

Barak Obama in his 2015 state of the union address speaks at between 100 and 130 words per minute. 

If you want to learn to speak more slowly and powerfully here is a good exercise, find a paperback, count off 120 words, and by speaking slowly and pausing often make those 100 words last a whole minute. Do this again and again until you have found a way of speaking slowly which feels natural to you.

Keep your hands visible (and calm)

People feel at eases when they can see your hands. It seems that as humans evolved, it became a good idea to check a persons hands for weapons as we met them. 

But more than just making sure we set the other persons mind at ease, using your hands well is important because hands which are making low confidence gestures are more off putting than hands which are making high confidence gestures. 

Here is your action tip to make your hands convey confidence when you start a conversation, set your hands in a steeple and make sure to come back to that as your default listening position.

Until next time…

Filed Under: how to, Nonverbal Behavior

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