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Reasons why mothers are more caring than fathers

Mike wanted to buy a new bike and was short of cash. He decided to ask his parents for money. He first thought of going to his father, but, on a second thought, he dropped the idea. He went to his mother instead who happily complied with his request.For a large part of his life, Mike had thought that his dad loved him slightly less than his mom. He knew that his father loved and cared for him, but not as much as his mom. Initially, he thought only he felt this way but after talking to many of his friends he came to realize that most dads are just like that.Mothers typically love, care, support and provide for their children more than fathers. This is the general trend, unless there’s an exceptionally strong relationship between a father and his child. Still, many would think twice before claiming that a father’s love is equivalent, let alone greater, than a mother’s love.But why is it so?mother carrying babyParental care is costlyMull over the phenomenon of parental care for a while. Two people come together, bond, mate and devote most of their time, energy and resources to raising their offspring. By investing in offspring, parents lose out on resources that could be as well devoted to themselves. For example, these resources could instead be channeled toward finding additional mates or increasing reproductive output (i.e. number of offspring).Also, parents who protect their young jeopardize their own survival. They’re more likely to get wounded or even die while fending off predators. Due to such high costs, parental care is not universal in the animal kingdom. Oysters, for example, release their sperm and eggs into the ocean, leaving their offspring adrift devoid of any parental care. For every oyster that manages to survive, thousands die.Thankfully, we’re not oysters and natural selection has programmed us humans to care for our young, at least till they reach puberty. The costs of parental care are, more often than not, outweighed by its reproductive benefits.….and more costly to malesParental care is more costly to human males than to human females. This stems from the fact that males have more to lose reproductively than females if they engage in parental care.Effort directed toward parenting cannot be directed toward mating. Since men can produce much more offspring than women, if they engage in parental care they miss out on additional mating opportunities that could have increased their reproductive output.Women, on the other hand, can produce a limited number of children throughout their lifetime and raising those children carries its own costs. So they generally cannot afford to increase their reproductive output by capitalizing on additional mating opportunities.Plus, beyond a certain age (menopause), women become incapable of producing children at all. This physiological strategy probably evolved to ensure that women take good care of the few children that they do bear.  When they reach menopause, other avenues of reproduction become practically non-existent for women. So their existing children are their only hope- their only vehicles for passing on their genes. Like it or not, this is perhaps the fundamental biological basis for a mother’s exceptional love.On the contrary, men can continue to produce offspring as long as they can live. Hence, their additional mating avenues don’t necessarily disappear.Men have built-in psychological programs that lure them away from parental care to seek out additional mating opportunities because it could mean more reproductive success. As a result, men tend to invest less in offspring, at least lesser than women, possibly with the unconscious hope that they could use these resources to gain more reproductive success.Paternity certaintyAnother reason why a woman invests her resources, time, effort, heart and soul into her offspring is because she can be 100% sure that she’s the mother of her child. After all, she’s the one who gave birth to her child. The child is essentially a part of her body. She’s 100% sure that her offspring contains 50% of her genes. Men don’t enjoy this sort of certainty. From a male’s perspective, there can always be some probability that another male has impregnated the female.Males suffer tremendous costs by channeling their resources to other men’s descendants. Resources devoted to a rival’s children are resources taken away from one’s own. Therefore, they have a subconscious tendency to be stingy when it comes to investing in their children.ConclusionLost additional mating opportunities coupled with paternity uncertainty have shaped the human male psyche to invest slightly less in their offspring than the females. However, thanks to education, cultural values and other forms of social conditioning, some males are able to rise above this biological tendency.

Reality Bending … Online Hypnosis Training with James Brown

Subscribers and regular visitors to the blog will know I am a fan of hypnosis, and like most things I am passionate for I am always on the look out to discover new ways of doing things, gaining perspective of others and generally a healthy thirst for knowledge. You will of noticed I have purchased a few of James Brown products recently (specifically from the POWA range) and even though I have trained with James before I have never looked at his approach to hypnosis specifically, so when he released online hypnosis training material “Reality Bending” I was keen to check it out and at $147 USD I thought it could be reasonable value for money.

So in this post I will provide a general overview of the content as well as my conclusion and if I think its worth you spending the money if you have an interest in developing your hypnotic abilities.
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For years we have studied and practiced hypnosis but never quite felt comfortable with the way it was explained.All the rituals seemed a little silly and never really explained what was happening. All the talk of putting people to sleep and entering their subconscious mind seemed, well, far fetched. Even when it worked (which it did!) the difference in others reaction was vast, and merely saying ‘some people can’t be hypnotised’ felt like a weak cop-out. We wanted something easy to understand.

In this training we will destroy the myths and kill the gods leaving you with a clear understanding of what’s really going on. From this simple foundational understanding we will teach you to create dramatic suggestions.

Introduction – As you would expect this covers a welcome section to introduce you to the principle and agenda of the training, James also provides some background on himself and personal usage of method and development, then we finish up by discussing the “conventional” perception of hypnosis and the methods considered by most to be the defacto approach. This section is about 15 minutes.

Foundations – In this section James sets out the approach that will be taken on the learning journey of the course, he then spends some time talking about suggestion and that essentially depending on the delivery and intent everything is / can be suggestion. Then we discuss fear and the various barriers people put in place as reasons why something cant be done or attempted. This section is about 45 minutes.

Ingredients – This portion of the training is broken up into 5 sections, and its through these sections that we start to cover the ingredients to James method of hypnosis, specifically around creating the belief and stimulating the imagination. This is a big portion of the substance to help you understanding the guiding principles of the hypnosis approach, its not a formula as such its more a capability to understand the recipe and adjusted flavourings you need for the various types of people you encounter. This section is about 60 minutes.

In the trenches – This is one of my favourite parts of the training and wish more people did this. This is various footage of the material being used in the real world, the successes but more importantly when things didn’t quite go as planned and how to handle these situations. So many people just want to show the polished material, but in a training context you need to see and understand everything, worts and all. This section is about 170 minutes.

Conclusion – To conclude the training James summaries the content covered, and also very briefly touches on the subject of safety. This section is about 10 minutes.

Bonus – As for this bonus material, I am not sure if everyone gets this or if its time dependant, but I have also seen some new material added since I first purchased the course (the joys of online content). In the bonus section James present the “Stuck” approach which you can view for FREE below, there is also footage of James presenting at the Change Phenomena Conference from back in 2010, along with some content from TedMed 2013 and a Berlin Magic Conference in 2015. Finally there are two extra new additions in my version, one is on self hypnosis and another on rapid inductions. Over 6 hours of bonus content.

So is it worth the money?? I think if your new to hypnosis and have only read some books and watched some videos on YouTube and are struggling then 1000% its money well spent and video format is really helpful to hone your technique and get out there and just do it. If your not new to hypnosis then perhaps you want learn something new if you think you know it all, but I still think its worth the money as you get additional perspective. Alot of what James covers in this course I would say is similar to my approach, but he broke some things down further and certainly got my cogs whirring into action in how I had assessed things before. Depending what side of the ocean you are on in this post Brexit economy this could be even more of a steal 🙂 If you do go ahead and make the purchase in the future please come back and leave a comment, was it great and informative or a total waste of money, I am always interested to hear what my readers think.

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