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The Humintell Blog July 2, 2012

Olympians and their Emotions: Marti Malloy

Marti Malloy grew up on Whidbey Island (a small island in the state of Washington) and begun judo at the young age of 6, following in her dad and two older brother’s footsteps.

Twenty years later, the four-time National Champion is an Olympian and will represent the United States of America at the 2012 London Olympic Games this summer. She took time out of her busy schedule to speak with Humintell about her training regime, how she prepares for competition and how she manages her emotions in stressful times.

Malloy first realized she wanted to go to the Olympics after she met former Judo World Champion Mike Swain and Olympian Sandy Bacher at a judo clinic. She was only 10 years old at the time, but the Olympic fire had been lit:

“I realized that this sport was something that you could go all the way with. As a kid it was jaw dropping. [I realized] That this wasn’t just a fun thing you do locally; You could go and win the World Championships. I wanted to do that too. I wanted to be the best.”

Today the 26 year old Olympian has a rigorous training schedule, sometimes doing three workouts a day in addition to working part-time as a receptionist to help pay the bills. She called the training “exhausting” but understands that it is necessary to achieve her goal of becoming an Olympic Medalist.

Motivating herself to do workouts or go to practice can be a daunting task, especially when she is tired, but Malloy has found a unique way to inspire herself.  Instead of focusing on the negative feelings of how she doesn’t want to go to practice, she thinks about the positive feelings she’ll have once the workout is done. By simply shifting her attention from the negative to the positive, she gains the strength to jump over her emotional hurdles, a technique that seems useful to us “average Joes” as well.

Although Malloy describes feeling nervous, shaky and excited before most competitions, she has trained her mind and body to enjoy and embrace the experience rather than let it affect her performance.

“I try to think of that butterfly feeling as a good feeling”

Interestingly, Malloy says she feels more focused for tougher tournaments, such as the World Championships; therefore, she fights better. When the competition is not as important, she feels there’s more on the line and puts more pressure on herself, although this feeling differs from tournament to tournament.

Malloy knows all to well the feeling of “letting her emotions get to her”. In the past she describes the feeling as her mind running a mile a minute and not being able to focus on the game plan. When she steps onto the mat, she felt like a deer in headlights.

The most helpful thing to Malloy in dealing with these feelings? Talking to herself and having a solid game plan are two strategies she employs to relax and calm her nerves.

Although the average person may not ever step onto an Olympic Judo mat, there are valuable words of advice that Malloy gives to others in dealing with their very emotional situations:

“Don’t focus on the things you can’t change. If there’s something you can do about it, you should do everything you can to change it. If there’s nothing you can do to change it, you have to move on”

To learn more about Marti, become a fan of her Facebook Page, follow her on twitter and visit her blog

Filed Under: Nonverbal Behavior

The Humintell Blog June 30, 2012

People Helping People: Cross Cultural Kindness

Working with people from a myriad of cultural backgrounds is more and more common as we grow both in technology and through advancements in travel.  A globally connected world is at our fingertips!

The inspiring video below, from Coca- Cola, focuses on the the strengths and kindness of cultures across the world.

Filed Under: Cross Culture, Nonverbal Behavior

The Humintell Blog June 28, 2012

Follow up: Searching for Microexpressions

If you read last week’s blog post on convicted murder Skylar Deleon, you would have seen a lot of disgust microexpressions throughout the interview with Dateline’s Josh Mankiewicz.

Deleon, who often speaks with a soft voice, can’t seem to mask his feeling of repulsiveness. Many of the readers who watched the video spotted these various microexpressions right away. Great job!

It’s important to remember that microexpressions leak out when a person has internal conflict between what is being said and what is being felt. However, you cannot automatically associate the microexpression with the person lying, just that there is more to the story than what’s being told.

We see various disgust microexpressions from Deleon, often twice in a row. Several of them at the beginning of the interview when Mankiewicz says “What do you want people to know about you?” (0:33 and 0:51 in video) and then again at “You can’t even bring yourself to say it, can you?” (2:13 and 2:15 in video).

It’s also important to note what you don’t see from Deleon- you don’t see genuine sadness or any sense of remorse for the murders he committed. You don’t see any tears or hear any cracking in his voice when he apologizes. In fact, at times during the interview you see him smile ever so slightly when discussing the murders.

It’s pretty clear from the interview that Deleon feels no true remorse for what he’s done and doesn’t seem very happy when he’s questioned about the topic.

Didn’t get a chance to see the video? You can watch it again below.

Click here to view the embedded video.

Filed Under: Hot Spots, Nonverbal Behavior

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