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psychmechanicsblog January 3, 2017

Mate choice copying and why all the good guys are taken

In humans, females are the high investing sex meaning that they invest more in their offspring than the males.


Nine months of gestation followed by years of feeding, nurturing and caring means paying a huge price in terms of time, energy, and resources.

Due to this, there is a pressure on women to select the right mates that are not only genetically sound but are also willing and able to help her invest in their offspring, especially in the context of long-term mating strategy.

Making the right mate choice is important for a woman because it’s likely to ensure her own reproductive success. Any error or misjudgment on her part, however, could mean that her huge efforts go to waste or that her reproductive success stands threatened.

One of the psychological mechanisms that women have evolved to increase the probability of making the right mate choice is called mate choice copying.

Mate choice copying

Say you move to a new city that’s very alien to you. You have no idea how things work there. What do you do to survive and adjust?

You simply copy those around you.

As soon as you arrive at the airport, you do what your fellow passengers do to reach the exit. On the subway station, you see a bunch of people lined up and assume it to be the place where tickets are sold.

In short, you make many calculations and predictions based on what other people do and they mostly turn out right.

In psychology, this is called the social proof theory and states that when we’re uncertain we follow the crowd.

Mate choice copying is very similar to the social proof theory in the way it works.

When selecting a mate, women have a tendency to evaluate what mates other women have selected in order to give themselves a better idea about which mate is worth selecting and which is not.

If a man is attractive to a lot of attractive females, a woman concludes that he must have a high mate value i.e. he must be a good mate.

Otherwise, why would so many attractive women fall for him in the first place?

Studies have shown that women rate men as attractive when they see other women smiling or positively interacting with them. Interestingly, when a women look at an attractive male, they’re more likely to spontaneously smile, thereby reinforcing mate choice copying for other women.

It’s easy to see the potential benefits that mate choice copying can offer to a woman. Evaluation of the male traits usually takes a lot of time and mate choice copying can provide women with useful shortcuts that they can use to aid their mate selection.

Mate choice copying is also the reason why women find committed men attractive. If a man has been deemed worthy enough to commit to by a woman, then surely he must be a good catch.

Women often complain that ‘all the good guys are taken’.  The truth is the other way round. They perceive all the taken guys as good.

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Mate choice copying in the bedroom

One of the common sources of conflict between couples in the bedroom is regarding foreplay. Women usually complain that men pay little attention to foreplay. They deem men who can stimulate them to orgasm as competent.

When asked why they like men who can stimulate them to orgasm, women naturally respond in terms of the pleasure that they gain from orgasm.

But, according to animal communication expert Robin Baker, the advantages a woman gains from selecting the more competent men are biological as well as sensual.

Basically, a woman uses a man’s approach to foreplay and intercourse to gain information about him. 
A man who’s able to arouse a woman and stimulate her to orgasm signals that he has past experience with other females. This, in turn, tells her that other women have also found him attractive enough to allow intercourse.

The more effectively he stimulates her, the more experienced he should be- and hence greater the number of women who’ve so far found him to be attractive.

Mixing her genes with him, therefore, may produce sons or grandsons who’re also attractive to women, thereby increasing her own reproductive success.



References:

Yorzinski, J. L., & Platt, M. L. (2010). Same-sex gaze attraction influences mate-choice copying in humans. PLoS One, 5(2), e9115.
Jones, B. C., DeBruine, L. M., Little, A. C., Burriss, R. P., & Feinberg, D. R. (2007). Social transmission of face preferences among humans. Proceedings of the Royal Society of London B: Biological Sciences, 274(1611), 899-903.
Eva, K. W., & Wood, T. J. (2006). Are all the taken men good? An indirect examination of mate-choice copying in humans. Canadian Medical Association Journal, 175(12), 1573-1574.

Filed Under: needs, Perception, subconscious-mind

psychmechanicsblog December 22, 2016

Do parents prefer sons or daughters?

Before we tackle this question, let’s review some fundamental concepts of evolutionary biology and psychology. You need to have an understanding of these concepts before proceeding and if you’re already familiar with them a nice little review won’t hurt.

Reproductive potential

It’s the number of children an individual organism can produce. In humans, males have a higher reproductive potential than females because they produce much more sperm in their lifetime than females produce eggs.

Reproductive certainty

While males have a higher reproductive potential, females have a higher reproductive certainty. This means that almost all females reproduce whereas a lot of men do not get a chance to reproduce at all.

Reproductive success

Our psychological mechanisms are wired to seek reproductive success i.e. successfully passing on as many genes to the next generation as possible (having kids who can successfully reproduce).

Keeping these concepts in mind, let’s delve into the eternal question of whether human parents prefer sons or daughters…

More sons = greater reproductive potential

Since human males have a very high reproductive potential compared to females, having more sons means more of your genes have the chance of making it to the next generation.

When it comes to reproductive success, more is better. Having a head start is always preferred. If conditions turn out bad later and some genes die, others can survive.

Therefore, in general, parents tend to prefer sons over daughters under average circumstances.

What exactly do I mean by ‘average circumstances’?

Average circumstances mean that the factors that influence reproductive success are not extreme. 

Now, there are a lot of variables that can influence reproductive success but the most important of them all is ‘availability of resources’.

Hence, in this case, ‘average circumstances’ would mean that the resources that parents can invest in their children are neither large nor small, they’re average. 

What if the resources are not average? What if the parents have less or more available resources? Will that affect their preference for sons versus daughters?

The answer is yes.

When available resources are meager

Reproductive success is both a function of reproductive potential and reproductive certainty. It’s just that under average circumstances, reproductive potential becomes more important because there’s already a good degree of reproductive certainty.

But when the available resources are meager, the balance of the equation shifts. Now, reproductive certainty becomes more important. In other words, when available resources are less, reproductive certainty becomes a more important determinant of reproductive success.

As you might have guessed, in such a situation daughters become more preferable than sons.

When you don’t have a lot of resources to invest, you can’t run the risk of producing sons whose reproductive certainty is low compared to daughters. They may not get a chance to reproduce at all, especially when their parents can invest very little in them.

There is a direct relationship between the reproductive success of males and their resourcefulness.


Therefore, when there’s a resource constraint, parents can’t simply go for the possibility of passing on a greater number of genes to the next generation. They’ve got to aim just for certainty. Beggars can’t be choosers.

It isn’t surprising, therefore, that women without a long-term partner or married to low-status men tend to produce an excess of daughters while women married into resourceful families tend to produce an excess of sons.

The logical conclusion that we can make from all that we’ve discussed above is that parents who have slightly more than average resources should show no preference towards either boys or girls. They should prefer boys and girls equally.

However, should economic conditions worsen, they’re likely to prefer girls over boys.

An interesting study conducted by researchers from two business schools showed that parents who had both daughters and sons spent more on daughters in bad economic times. 

These parents seemed to unconsciously understand that in tough economic conditions reproductive certainty became more important than higher reproductive potential.

Even more intriguing is the fact that such preferences also exist at the womb level. When resources are scarce, female biology suppresses boys’ survival in the womb. The result being that mothers give birth to fewer males than normal.

Here’s a short video discussing this…



References:

Cameron, E. Z., & Dalerum, F. (2009). A Trivers-Willard effect in contemporary humans: male-biased sex ratios among billionaires. PLoS One, 4(1), e4195.

Durante, K. M., Griskevicius, V., Redden, J. P., & White, A. E. (2015). Spending on daughters versus sons in economic recessions. Journal of Consumer Research, ucv023.

Filed Under: needs, Perception, subconscious-mind

psychmechanicsblog October 11, 2016

Why do humans engage in warfare

at all? At first blush engaging in warfare seems to make no evolutionary sense. After all, if survival and reproduction are our core needs, why would we ever want to engage in an activity where the chances of us getting killed are so high?To understand why this happens we first need to look at why we engage in risky behaviors at all…Choosing risky behaviors A risky behavior may simply be defined as a behavior which has the potential to incur huge costs to the person doing that behavior.Starting a business can be a risky behavior because you might end up wasting time and money if you’re unsuccessful; proposing to your crush can be a risky behavior because you might get rejected; investing in the stock market can be a risky behavior because you might end up losing your money.And engaging in warfare can be a risky behavior because you might get killed- the ultimate loss.Yet people start businesses, propose to their crushes, invest in the stock market, and engage in warfare. Why?It’s because the potential benefits of these behaviors can outweigh their potential costs. A risky behavior is that where the potential benefits and costs are both huge.An entrepreneur can become a millionaire by starting a business, so can a person investing in the stock market, and proposing to your crush may lead to a relationship. These are all benefits that some people believe are worth taking huge risks for.But what are the potential benefits of engaging in warfare?Evolution of warfare Warfare is an activity pursued exclusively by men. Their intended victims are most often other men, although women frequently suffer as well.Men have physical adaptations that facilitate success in a war. Men exceed women in upper body strength; the average man is nearly twice as strong as an average woman in the chest, shoulder, and arm strength. Men show superiority in throwing distance and throwing accuracy, which would facilitate combat involving rocks and spears (weapons that we used for most of our evolutionary history). The psychological adaptations include the tendency to form coalitions (gangs) that explicitly exclude women. One of the strongest fears of men is to act cowardly in a battle and they experience great excitement, glory, and a sense of brotherhood at the prospect of war (think all-male modern sports competitions).But for warfare to evolve, certain important conditions need to be met. All these conditions are designed to make men perceive the benefits of engaging in warfare greater than the potential costs.  Let’s go over these conditions…First and foremost, in order to pass on its genes to the next generation, an animal typically requires resources (food and land) and mates. The ideal way to gain more resources is to gain more land. Gaining more land also provides sexual access to mates.As you can see, if you gain more land (especially fertile lands), your reproductive success is more or less guaranteed to increase. Although few wars are initiated with the stated intent of capturing women, gaining more copulations is almost always viewed as the desired benefit of successfully vanquishing an enemy. Secondly, members of the coalitions must believe that their group will be victorious and that the collective resources of one’s coalition will be greater after the aggressive encounter than before it. Since the potential costs of war are huge, you require a great deal of motivation in the opposite direction to successfully outweigh them. By promising your soldiers that they’re going to get huge rewards when they’re victorious, you’re able to boost their morale.Note that wars are essentially carried out in coalitions. This is because, in a war, there’s always a risk of death. If you go alone to a battle, you have a 100% chance of getting killed. If you go with 10 men, your chance of getting killed is 1/10 (10%), which is quite low compared to the previous case but kind of high given we’re talking about as such a precious resource as human life.  But when more people accompany you, your probability of getting killed decreases significantly. The greater the number the better it is for each individual. If 100 people go to war, the probability of each person getting killed would be 1/100 (1%) and if 1000 people go to war then this probability would be 1/1000 (0.1%), which is very low.As you can see, forming large coalitions enables men to share the huge risks that wars carry. This tips the scale more toward the benefits side of engaging in a war.Consider what happens when an army has been subdued and the numbers are reduced, say from 1000 to just 100. The probability of each member getting killed is dramatically increased from what it was at the initial stage. This often results in surrender or what is known as the ‘battlefield panic’ where a group of men thinks it wiser to defect and save their lives than to continue.chimpanzees patrollingChimps frequently patrol the borders of their territory, sometimes raiding, attacking or even killing their neighbors.Conclusion To summarize, engaging in a war has the potential of providing men with huge benefits in terms of resources and reproductive success but in order to motivate them to go to war, the huge costs associated with war have to be reduced.If you look at history, men have created all kinds of expansionist ideologies and under the guise of fighting for or defending their ideologies, all they actually ever fought for was land, power, resources and women.References:Why do chimps kill each other?More males mean more territory patrols, study shows

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